Common Sense and Common Courtesy Rules

After I got the kids off to school last week I began picking up around the house. It seemed to me that there has been a general lack of common sense lately in our home. In response I typed up the following:

Common Sense/Common Courtesy Rules

1. Put away the milk when you are done pouring cereal. No one likes sour milk.

2. If you spill cereal while pouring it, pick/sweep it up. No one likes stepping on cereal.

3. If you use the last square of toilet paper, take off the empty roll and replace it with a new one .

4. If the bathroom is running low on new toilet paper rolls, stock the bathroom. The toilet paper is kept in the bottom of the linen closet.

5. Put the cap on the toothpaste and put it away when you are done with it.

6. Wipe up any toothpaste you've gotten on the counter.

7. You have a hamper--use it. There are no excuses for dropping your clothes two feet from the hamper.

8. If you take off your shoes the moment you walk in the door and put them in the shoe box, you'll always know where your shoes are. You will avoid the morning panic of wondering what you'll wear on your feet at school.

9. Shoes (and socks) never belong on the counter or table. These are surfaces where we prepare and/or eat foods. Do you really want to introduce germs to the place where your food is?

10. If I ask you to put away washrags and towels, that does not mean they belong in your bedroom. They belong in the bathroom cabinet and drawer.

11. When you are done using one item, put it away before you get out a new one.

12. The barstools belong at the kitchen bar. They do not belong in your room, the laundry room, or any closet.

13. If you are rushed for time in eating breakfast, please do not pour yourself cereal in the biggest bowl you can find. Use the smallest bowl and refill it if you finish what you've poured. The amount of cereal we waste is staggering.

14. When you get up in the morning or come home from school, it would be appreciated if you would check the dishwasher and if it is clean, unload your part. It will help the house to run more smoothly.

15. Flush the toilet and wash your hands. This was part of your potty training. I know you can do it.

16. Please do not be shocked/angry/flabbergasted that each day when you come home from school we have a short break/snack then we work on homework, practice your musical instrument and do chores and/or scout work. This is the same routine we've been doing for years.

17. Please remember that your dad and I are your biggest advocates. We love you more than anyone--save the Savior and our Heavenly Father. We are not your enemies. We are not out to ruin your life. We are here to teach you what you need to know to be a successful adult and contributing member of society. Your choices will affect any consequences you earn. Sometimes they will be good and sometimes they will be bad--it all depends upon you and the choices you make. It is up to you. We love you.

I don't know if this will make a difference to the kids or not. As I've mentioned, some of them have extra challenges. I'll still be posting it though, and when I get my office done and my vinyl machine back up and running I plan on putting this in large letters on the wall.

I should add I posted this on facebook and my uncle tells me that I should just let the milk sour, eat and leave crumbs in their beds and basically turn the tables on them. I may eventually have to try that, but for now we'll work on friendly reminders.

Surprise! We're going to Disney World.

You know those Disney advertisements where the parents surprise the kids that they are going on a trip? I confess, I choke up when I watch them.

I grew up being raised on Disney. We lived in California for a time as did my grandparents, so I can't even count the number of times I've been to Disneyland. My sisters and I would play the Disney princesses. (I was Snow White and the others were Cinderella and Aurora--yep dating myself a little here). I had an old 33 record that had all the songs from Cinderella. I had another 33 that told the story of Snow White in addition to the music.

In short we are/were Disneyphiles.

For many years I've heard great stories about parents surprising their children with a trip to Disney--then Disney began showing the linked ad from above. I wanted to do this for my kids.

Two problems--1) Disney can be really expensive--especially for a family of my size. 2) Those great videos and stories where they tell the kids they are leaving for the airport right now? Yeah, that doesn't work so well with kids on the Autism spectrum. My boys need sign posts and time to adjust to ideas.

So a compromise. I did a lot of research over several months and when I heard Disney had brought back the free dining plan again I jumped on it. I made all of our reservations and I was bursting with the secret.

As I said, my children need time to adjust to ideas. My husband and I talked about it and decided that we would tell the kids a couple of months before the actual vacation so they would also have a chance to earn and save money for souvenirs.

On my son's birthday I set things in motion by having a letter delivered to him by "owl" (or so the server at the pizza parlor said) which set all of the kids off on an adventure. When we got home from the pizza parlor, (and no, I didn't have them make a Mickey shaped pizza though I sort of wish I had), they had to go around the house collecting objects and filling tasks--most of them related to Disney or Harry Potter (my kids are HUGE fans). I even made wands out of chocolate dipped pretzel sticks (the long ones), but I was remiss in getting any pictures.

The end reward was supposed to be cookies--literally found in the cupboard under the stairs--though I had been making them in secret and the royal icing hadn't dried completely, so they ended up being found inside the second fridge. I found my inspiration here. She is much more talented than I am.

It was my first attempt at edible royal icing and I discovered three things. 1) It's probably better to start with smaller amounts of icing and make more rather than trying to find creative ways to use up white, black and red icing. 2) Getting the right consistency for both outlining and filling in is trickier than it looks on paper. 3) Gel food dyes--especially black--can leave a nasty stain on your tongue and teeth. Brush immediately after eating.

Below are some of our attempts of baking more cookies and using more icing.


We took our vacation this last fall (another reason I didn't post) and we had a great time. I had to skip a few rides given my current project (baby on board), but being pregnant made me change my focus-it was okay if we were slower paced and if we didn't get to the opening gates 1/2 hour before the parks opened. We enjoyed ourselves and each others company and it made the difference.

As a side note--I recommend families with ASD children look into disability passes for theme parks. Most parks have them, but I would not have known about them were it not for a good friend whose child is also autistic.

New Project

I realize I haven't posted in many, many months. That would be because I've been busy working on my latest project--one that should be complete sometime in May.


Yep! Expecting! (Not twins, I just had to take two tests to be sure).

I spent many, many weeks feeling absolutely sicker than a dog. Then I started to feel better and it was time to try and catch up on family stuff and life in general. Then the kids got sick. Three rounds of strep throat this year. Not fun. (I'm honestly wondering if one of the munchkins is a carrier for strep.)

They also broke my laptop screen. One of the more rambunctious ones decided it was a great idea to shut my laptop while I was typing. My ring and knuckles did some serious damage to my screen. It was a while before I had a working laptop again.

I'm still playing catch up, (and part of that has been trying to get services for my children who are on the Autism spectrum), but the holidays are over, the decorations are put away (last week-finally), and I'm hoping I can begin posting again on a more regular basis.

One other piece of good news. We had planned on finishing the basement when we bought this house and have been saving accordingly. This new baby provides the impetus to get it done, and hopefully we'll be able to finish in the next month or two. The best part? One of the rooms we're finishing is a craft room for me! I can't tell you how excited I am. I haven't had a craft room in ages and ages! (I have just been hiding in nooks and cranny's wherever I can).

Look for posts regarding basement progress in the near future!